Reply With QuoteI just got a call from my sister and because she got so upset about her stealing my DD name they have changed her middle name, thank God. Maybe she did it just to cause a stir!
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tashy- love it! I wanna be a fly on the wall if that were to happen.
Definatly weird.
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I just got a call from my sister and because she got so upset about her stealing my DD name they have changed her middle name, thank God. Maybe she did it just to cause a stir!
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If she will change it that easy obviously she wasn't that attached to it.
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That's very strange and I can see why you are upset. My BIL did something similar so kinda know what you are feeling. He always said it was lame that we were planning on using a family name as DS1's first name, but when he had kids he used it as his firstborn's middle name. Then when he had another son he gave him DS1's middle name as a first name, and another version his first name as a middle name. I dread to think what they will call, their next child
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She sounds like an attention seeker. I'm glad she changed the name.
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I'm relieved too, It's a really weird thing to do!
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hun, i am glad they are changing the middle name and i think it is a little odd to have both the first & middle names the same especially when they know it's exactly the same as your DD.
However when i was younger my dad had a very close friend (my godfather) who also named his daughter L (i was born first), iw as given my mums middle name as a middle name but it also had meaning to them as a family (although at the time my mum didn't know that), in the end they decided against it (as i was already named that) but to this day we joke that i am his L.M
If she has done it as an attention thing i think it's so so wrong, if they loved both names and it DID have significant meaning to them then i still find it a little odd but we all have our reasons for choosing our babies names, who is anyone else to decide why we can't use a particular name?
I'm not downplaying your feelings at all, i completely understand why it would be so frustrating (i'd be annoyed if it happened to me) but i think it comes down to personal choice, if they want to confuse everyone and make it hard for themselves then i say play it up.. take it as a compliment and brush it off.... but you don't have to worry, they are changing the name now
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must be the time of the year for it
my SIL just had a bub the other day and called its name nearly identical name to my oldest son!!!
WTF
and more stranger- when you shorten both names- they are shortened to exactly the same name!!!!!!!!!!!!!
and they are both really unusal names too!!!
I was soo peaved off when i found out
and my son was upset that she called the baby nearly the same name as his!!!!
FFS- there are plently of names out there!
so my poor kids grandparents have 2 grandkids with the same name!!!
xmas is gonna be fun!!
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How frustrating! I don't understand why someone would do that?
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It's just plain weird! I agree so many names out there, why is it necessary!
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That is very weird and even weirder that they were so willing to change it, why even choose the name to begin with??
I found it weird that my DP has a cousin who is about 10 (give or take) years younger than him with the same name.. i found that really odd. My DD has a similar name to one of my nieces and i did ask my SIL if she minded we called her that name and she just laughed and said she didnt care which was great as we were stumped for names!
But to deliberately seek out a baby's name and then use it on your own is just plain WEIRD!
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I have two cousins with the same name. It's never been hard for me to cope with.
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It's a little odd, but you haven't used something like Ann, Lee, or Rose, have you? Those are pretty common middle names.
Sounds like she might have already thought of that name, couldn't remember if you used it or not, and even after finding out you had, decided they loved it too much to think of something else.
I'd take it as a compliment on your awesome name choosing abilities!Does your family and DD have much to do with her? (FWIW, we like one of the names of my cousin's DDs and given the difficultly we're having in choosing names, we won't be ruling it out based on that).
But I can understand that it seems a little odd...
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That is bizarre!! Glad she changed it
My brother has 2 god sons, one is DS and the other is his friends son (who I haven't even met let alone have any relation to) but they both have the exact same name.
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I just thought of something... a good friend of mine was pg, while she was pg her cousin's cousin or something had a little girl and my friend told me that they had named her the exact name that she had picked out for her bub if it was a girl.
It was just a random, freaky coincidence! They hadn't discussed names... it just happened. So my friend was all torn about what to do and decided to deal with it when the baby was born, as they didn't know if it was a boy or a girl. Guess what, it was a girl!
So they named her what they wanted to. They hadn't copied, it was a geniune name they chose before this little girl was born. Its a more distant relative than what it sounds like yours is Babyluv, but it can happen - it can be just a coincidence.
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This thread has happened sooo many times in reverse,the first thing I thought was your SIL on another forum when you announced your DD's name:
SIL: I'm so upset, my SIL just said she's naming her daughter X Y, I've loved that name for a girl since I was 5 years old.
Others: Are you sure it's the same name, you should check.
SIL: I checked, it is.
Others: Just go ahead and use it anyway, are you really close to her? Do you see her all the time? I think it'd be a really nice bond between cousins, she should take it as a complement, nobody owns a name etc etc.
that was my first (silly) thought
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On DH's side of the family it is tradition to name the first boy after their grandfather. There are five cousins including DS16 with the same name, they actually think it is special. They all have nicknames though to avoid confusion when all together lol.
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Dianne
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It's VERY weird but unfortunately totally out of your control. You may as well start making the jokes about being flattered etc........which is sucky but they aren't likely to change the name. It's something I would never ever ever do though. I feel sad for you.
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